Straight Shooter

December 1, 1997 West Paducah, KY: 3 students killed, 5 wounded by a 14-year-old gunman

March 24, 1998 Jonesboro, AR: 4 students and 1 teacher killed, 10 wounded by 11 and 13 year old gunmen

May 21, 1998 Springfield, OR: 2 students killed, 22 wounded by 15 year old gunman who also killed his parents

April 20, 1999 Littleton, CO: 14 students and 1 teacher killed, 23 wounded by 17 and 18 year old students

Ya know what? Go to this link and check out school shootings worldwide. Note how the majority take place in the United States.

http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0777958.html

There are many more instances of babies killing babies. But honestly, that is only part of what this blog is about. What I remember asking myself repeatedly 4 days after the senseless killings in Newtown, Connecticut is what do these gun enthusiasts care more about? Are guns or American children more important? And I can already hear responses like "It's not that simple," coming from the pro-gun gallery. But in my eyes, it IS that simple. Do you want weapons like semi-automatic assault rifles readily available or do you want to watch your children grow up and give you grand kids? In light of recent events, I can't even think about my beautiful 6-year-old nephew and how much I love him without tearing up. The one time I wondered if it had been him at Sandy Hook, I had to pull over and sob uncontrollably on the side of the road.

It's no secret I despise guns. I think a machine specifically designed to take human life has no place in civilized society. Why do we need something in everyday life that allows one human to take another human life so readily? Don't think I know what I am talking about? During my work as a journalist, I have been shot at. Repeatedly. I have seen countless gun violence crime scenes. And some of those crime scenes involved the deaths of children. Don't preach to me about protecting your family after you go to a remote creek bridge in Texas to view a crime scene where a teenage girl had her head blown off and her body thrown off the bridge. She had been shot nine times. I had a sheriff's agent point out remnants of her brain, scalp and hair on the bridge rail. I was more stunned by my lack of shock at what I was seeing. I hadn't even been a reporter for that long, but I realized I couldn't become desensitized to that sort of thing ever again. And you know what? Two of the three men involved in killing that beautiful high school cheerleader were also high school kids. Babies killing babies. Later, the girl's father filed a lawsuit against the store that sold and handed over shotgun ammunition to two of the killers. The complaint alleged negligence on the grounds that the action violated state law on the supply of offensive weapons to minors, and that this negligence caused his daughter's death. Because the lawsuit was brought about in a conservative state, it went nowhere. After all of my experiences, I hate guns even more. According to ABC News, 34 people die as a result of guns every day in America. That is 34 too many. Yes, gun nuts, WAY TOO EFFING MANY!

Back to recent events...its despicable it took the killing of 20 little angels and 6 brave adults to finally justify an outcry for tougher gun legislation. Take a look at that link again. How many Americans died? Many of them were kids.  How many died after 2004 once George W. Bush allowed a federal assault weapons ban to expire? And now, who do we blame?

Blame seems to be a tough word for people these days. I have seen blame put on the NRA, Dubya, Democrats, Republicans, Obama, parents, mental illness, congress, and even ME over the past few days. And in a way, we are ALL to blame. I could have lobbied harder to my local representatives for tougher local and national gun legislation. I could have signed more petitions or sent that one email that changed the heart of Bob Corker or any of my local or national representatives. But we ALL have blood on our hands. Some more than others. We failed these children by being complacent and wrapped in our own little world of "it won't happen to me and mine."

I have never been a fan of the NRA. I don't think a lobby with that much money and power should be fighting to continue to allow death machines in the hands of any American. The fact that this group exists is so ridiculous, it defies explanation. And the further fact that this group is feared by politicians, and in Washington D.C., must stop. We are the people of the United States not the NRA. They are not powerful if the people speak out. And along that vein, the NRA has been surprisingly quiet since the killings in Newtown. All the while, they welcome new members they scared into believing that Obama was going to take their guns. Check Obama's record. He has never even once said he would do that. Well, maybe its finally time he did.

And just in case you were wondering, here is a list of politicians on the NRA payroll:

http://www.opensecrets.org/orgs/recips.php?cycle=2012&id=D000000082 

Is your rep on it? Senator Bob Corker, my rep, is on that list and I will indeed be sending him a concerned email. I'd be surprised if he read it, but stranger things have happened. But let's look at it this way. The NRA gave him $4,950 in 2012 donations. So, I plan on asking him if his support for the NRA and its policies along with the 2004 assault weapons ban expiration was worth the lives of 20 children and 6 adults in Connecticut or 12 people in Aurora, Colorado etc...

And I know that tougher gun legislation is just the tip of the iceberg. President Obama took a huge step this year in signing the Affordable Healthcare Act which also helps with access to low-cost mental healthcare. Americans who need access to quality mental healthcare and medications should never have to pay an arm and a leg for the help they need. Plus, insurance companies should have little say in who stays in and who leaves mental health centers. A friend of mine, who was caring for her suicidal cousin, wasn't able to keep him in a center because, after four days, their insurance company insisted he be released. Why was that? It was because he hadn't tried to kill himself in that time. Doctors and healthcare experts should have a say in when  patients are released. Not the insurance companies. But I heard on NPR this morning from a man who worked in a pediatric hospital. He claimed that children with serious mental health issues are admitted for around one to weeks, then released. Some anti-depression and anti-psychotic medications take 5-6 weeks to begin taking effect. The system, when it comes to mental healthcare, also needs a close look and perhaps an overhaul. 

Another good point is brought up by my incredibly smart boyfriend, who suggests we go after the ammunition. The 2nd Amendment is seriously outdated, but it still says nothing about ammunition. We should outlaw the ammo or at least price it like it's a Rolex watch. We have a serious budget deficit in this country and taxing the hell out of ammo (and guns) would be a great way to help get us out of this financial crisis. It isn't the answer, but it will certainly help. Do you really think drive by shootings would happen daily if bullets costed $100 a pop? 

I had a man try to tell me recently that sugar killed more people than guns. I am not sure as to the validity of that statement, but even if it's true, the argument is silly at best. You can't take a 5 pound bag of sugar into a crowded mall and kill 10 people in less than a minute. You can also control the intake of your sugar. The arguments I hear about cars being deadly is also a heap of crap. Cars are not designed to kill. You don't take a car or truck into the middle of the woods and shoot deer with it. Guns are SPECIFICALLY designed to kill, injure, and maim. And target practice is simply rehearsing to kill, injure, or maim. Oh- and those that suggest we arm principals, teachers, and guards in schools are the ones who really do need mental healthcare. More guns is certainly NOT going to solve the problem. The solution to gun violence is NOT more guns. 

I am well aware that overly expensive guns and ammo, better and affordable mental healthcare and stricter gun laws are not going to prevent school shootings from happening again. But if it will help in the prevention of incidents like Newtown and Columbine from happening, then I am all for it. It's like I told a gentleman yesterday "If  these things can save the life of one American, isn't it worth it?" And I will happily debate anyone who thinks their guns are more valuable than human life. It's an argument they will not win because, as I stated earlier, it IS that simple. Do you want your guns or do you want a safe America?

I conclude with a quote from The West Wing: 

"I do know that if you combine the populations of Great Britain, France, Germany, Japan, Switzerland, Sweden, Denmark, and Australia, you've got a population roughly the size of the United States. We had 32,000 gun deaths last year and they had 112. Do you think it's because Americans are more homicidal by nature? Or do you think it's because those guys have gun control laws?"

Coughing Up To The Cop Out

I saw the movie Lincoln recently starring Daniel Day Lewis. It's a great film about Abraham Lincoln and the reason he pushed through the 13th Amendment to the United States constitution. Perhaps I am being arrogant (and it wouldn't be the first time I was being so) but it made me think that my fight for marriage equality is more important than ever.

I truly am tired of the complacent people who are fine with being friends with homosexuals, but show zero initiative in helping to fight for their rights.Simply saying that it should be left up to the states or that it will happen eventually is a cop out. That's right. A BIG, HUGE, CRAP LOAD OF COP OUT!

You see, that is their excuse that allows them to support candidates or bills that do not help their LGBT pals. It's what they tell themselves in order to get to sleep at night, I suppose. Being their pal is fine, I am sure. But how would they feel if their spouse was dying in the hospital and the law didn't allow them to be by his or her side? How would they feel if they spent most of their life dedicated to a spouse, and when that spouse died, they had zero say in funeral arrangements or assets or possessions or anything really?

But don't let me try to convince you. Let's hear the voices of a few of my LGBT friends who were kind enough to give their two cents about people who are happy to be their friends, but are complacent about their rights. And as you read these stories, keep in mind, they just might be people you know and love.

LGBT Pal #1:

 I am always taken aback by that because it clearly demonstrates that they don't take me--or our friendship--seriously. It also prompts me to tell them the story of losing my home and livelihood five years after my partner died because his cold-hearted bitch of a mother sued me for his half of everything. And with the lack of laws that would protect my interests, I had to sell our home and most of the stuff in it in order to pay her. As a result, my memories of him are forever clouded by his inaction and refusal to see his family for what they are: prejudiced and bigoted.

I firmly believe that if people who purport to care about me hear that story, they will understand why rights for people in same-sex relationships are essential and examples of basic human rights.

LGBT Pal #2:

I have friends who support candidates who go against gay rights and when I ask them about that, they often say something to the effect of, "Well, it's not that we don't support you, but we have to look out for our own best interests, and the Republican party aligns with our way of being fiscally conservative." I think that's a total cop out and speak up about it. I point out that by supporting Republican candidates, they're supporting people who are against equal rights. I don't want special rights, just equal rights. I want to be able to visit my partner in the hospital, I want the same tax rights, social security rights, the right to be legally married, and the list goes on and on. They often try to argue about Biblical principles, which is an even bigger cop out. I'm very spiritual, and there are hundreds of passages in the Bible that our society no longer lives by, but the right wing likes to pick and choose the scriptures that seem to condemn gays. It makes my blood boil. I have no patience with it, but I think many right wingers have formed opinions based on fear and ignorance. It's often a pointless cause to try and educate them because fear and ignorance build a wall around them.

LGBT Pal #3:

I think it’s easier for someone to say “Well I love YOU, but…” and then proceed to contradict that statement. This is because most people who believe this way have been taught that it’s okay to be homophobic or anti-gay....just don’t ever say it out loud.

How can you say you love and support me in one breath, and then tell me you don’t believe I deserve equal rights or treatment under the law? It’s a huge slap in the face. Most of them don’t get it.

I used this example with a friend not too long ago. She lives with diabetes, but at one point said to me that most people will never even give it a second thought. I turned this around and said “Okay. You know how you live with diabetes every day? That’s how it is for me. You might think about gay rights once in a blue moon, but I live it every single day.” While it’s not the best example, she finally began to understand that it’s not just something I choose to be a part of... it’s a fight every day for my life.

I have found myself in tears many times over the last two elections because of people in my life who, in my mind, just don’t get it. These are people who aren’t even vocalizing their opinions about gay marriage, but chose a side with their vote. While I know that the economy is important, I just don’t see how it can take precedent over the basic civil rights of the people in this country.

However, I think many people in the majority are hung up on the idea that gay people are somehow second-class citizens and thus deserve to be treated as such. It’s the very childish ideal of “We have these rights and privileges but we don’t want to share them with YOU because you’re icky.” It’s human nature to love power and control…and to me this is all just one big power play.

The biggest disappointment is comes from within my family. This is a group of people who have two openly gay relatives (myself and my aunt) and yet still do not believe that we deserve equal rights or protection under that law. Why? Because God says it’s wrong. That’s it. That’s the only reason anyone ever wants to give me.

What it really comes down to in this instance is the need for separation of church and state to be a REAL thing. Don’t get me wrong, I am Christian and I do believe in God, but I refuse to believe a book written by man thousands of years ago should be the social standard of what’s best for the people of this country in 2012. It’s an archaic, backwards way of thinking. If you want to live by Old Testament rules, go back to Old Testament times. The rest of us will continue evolving just fine without you.

LGBT Pal #4:

People who think "progress is just gonna happen eventually" while voting for candidates who want nothing but societal digression, are morons. Regardless of one's way of thinking. There's no such thing as a progressive conservative. The longer this country stays still, the more potential for growth it loses and the more it comes off as a cultural and intellectual wasteland. I'm sorry, but it's true.

And NOTHING regarding even the most basic rights of people should be left up to states. State governments are decided and controlled by the sheep. And yes, there are, and unfortunately always will be sheep. Sheep cannot make good decisions. Sheep cannot think outside themselves and their own interests. And allowing every slack-jawed hick and elementary school drop out to decide the rights of OTHER people is nothing short of criminal. The best example of this: the death penalty in Texas. Texas is the jewel on the Republican crown. Heaps of people are put down without any decent reason. Why? Because the hick dickfucks who are in charge and the oilmen who wanna play God make the decisions.

A BIG THANK YOU TO MY FRIENDS FOR SPEAKING OUT!

These are just the words of four fellow Americans who want equal rights. If you still want to deny these people their rights, then find another reason because the excuses are growing old and illogical. Showing your lack of concern by throwing out evasive diarrhea no longer holds water. Admit you care more for a political party than the rights of your friends and family. Thanks. 

How To Lose An Election

I was listening to NPR during my drive in to work like I do every morning and the discussion was over how the Republican party lost the Presidential election. A resounding agreement was that the GOP panders to white men over the age of 50 and has done a great job of alienating women, the LGBT community, minorities, and Americans younger than 30. Another point brought up was that it SEEMS Republicans only care for the wealthy and see the rest of Americans as moochers. They quoted Rush Limbaugh and Sean Hannity who said Obama supporters were just looking for a handout. These were members of the GOP citing these reasons. Some Republicans who called in said they were tired of GOP representatives being obstructionists while others said they leaned way to far to the right to be taken seriously. Perhaps it is time they finally take a long, hard look at themselves. And I hope they won't be proud of what they find.

I was jobless for nearly a year between 2009 and 2010. I never collected unemployment, was never late paying any of my bills and I voted for President Obama. Twice. So, if all of those who voted for Obama are a bunch of government moochers, I would like to know how I fall into that category. I don't have kids that go to school, I pay my taxes on time every year, and fall above the income level where I do indeed pay income tax. I am not Romney's so-called 47% and I still voted against him.

I guess what I am trying to say is that those of us who voted for President Obama are not evil deadbeats waiting for our next government handout. This nation is not going to crumble over the next four years under his leadership. It has never crumbled to the point of non-existence under any of our leaders, so what makes some believe its going to start now? Our nation has been in much worse shape and our economy IS slowly and surely recovering despite what FOX News will tell you. You can't unfix years of unchecked Dubya spending in 4 years. And you have to have both sides of the political aisle working together to get it done. So, if you want to complain about why its taking so long, point a finger to the GOP who has been unwilling to work with Democrats. Again, back to my first paragraph where Republicans admitted they were being obstructionists. Don't believe me? Let's use the GOP's own words against them. Minority Senate Leader Mitch McConnell said his number one goal was to make Obama a one term President four years ago. The goal wasn't to put Americans back to work or create new jobs or balance the budget or do ANY NUMBER of things for the American people. But his best interest wasn't the American people. It was creating political discourse. Now, just how did that help America?

How does it help America when corporation CEO's like Robert Murray punish the American people by laying off employees a day after the election. Murray laid off close to 200 people at Murray Energy citing a bogus "war on coal" by Obama. According to the Washington Post, "energy analysts say that the coal-mining business is suffering because of competition from low-cost natural gas and rising production costs of coal, especially in the Appalachian region." So, it's not Obama's fault these people are losing their jobs, but I suppose it's easier to blame the President than the actual competition stemming from free enterprise. 

I see online petitions flying around for states to secede. Well, I've got some news for you people. Do a little real homework and you'll learn that unless you live in the state of Texas, you can't secede. And losing Texas wouldn't be that big of a deal really. It's been a waste of red(neck) space for years. But, I have never cared for Texas, so that is my own prejudice rearing its ugly head. But seriously, besides pro-sports teams, what else does Texas have to offer? Traffic and strip malls. Where do I sign up? (ADDENDUM: It turns out that as a student in Texas, I was misinformed in my Texas history class and Texas cannot secede from the Union. So, chalk it up to Texas Public Schools. Gotta love a one-sided view of history for all!)

When Dubya won in 2000 and 2004, I wasn't upset. I was concerned. I didn't start throwing petitions around trying to get my home state to secede from the country. I honestly knew he wouldn't do a very good job and he didn't, but I didn't act like a sore loser and take to calling my Republican friends Facists and Nazis. You want further proof he was an unpopular President? He wasn't invited to the 2012 Republican National Convention and he was the last Republican to hold the Presidency. Romney intentionally separated himself from Dubya. And he was smart to do so.

I got off topic a bit here, but it seems to me that the GOP needs to stop alienating core groups of Americans if they want to win elections. They need to embrace the fact that the United States is evolving and things like gay marriage and global warming are real and will happen. They need to stop trivializing things like rape and supporting equality for women, minorities and the LGBT community. They need to pull away from the outrageous, ignorant, petty and sometimes racist agenda of the Tea Party. They need to stop clinging to the Christian religion as public law and forcing it on the American public.

In conclusion, I believe I have heard Ronald Reagan's name being brought up quite frequently since President Obama took office. The GOP lauds the days when he was President. Many Tea Partiers want to go back to the times when he was in office. Well, let's see, he supported a woman's right to choose, unions, infrastructure spending, tax hikes (and lots of them), corporate tax increases, the Brady Act, and amnesty for immigrants. Doesn't sound much like the Republican platform of today. But, when a platform reeks of the 1950's, then just about anything looks better than regression.

Hooray for the Gay!

Great news on the human rights front in the United States! A conservative federal appeals court judge has struck down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). It's another step closer to marriage equality for all Americans.

I think Mr. Evans is correct. Yes, he is an actor and some actors know what they are talking about. I am an actor, but not nearly as good as Mr. Evans. But I digress.The point is,  I am already ashamed that my fellow Americans do not have the same right as me. And I have my conservative friends on Facebook say things like "You're not gay. Why do you care?"

Well, let's see, I care because I have hundreds of gay friends who cannot legally love the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with. And they are denied the rights that go along with being legally married. If you find the idea of homosexuality disagreeable or gross, then fine. That is your opinion. Don't marry a gay person. I find the idea of eating black licorice gross, but I am not trying to make it illegal to buy. I'm not supporting legislation to make Jagermeister unlawful because I personally don't appreciate the way it meshes with my palate. People have told me comparisons like that aren't that easy. But yes, they ARE that easy!

YOUR personal views, whether they be religious or otherwise are just that. YOUR views. Argue up the "God's view" and Bible scripture quotes all you want. Those are still your PERSONAL, religious views and not the opinion or belief of every American. I know we are a "majority rules" kind of democracy, but our founding fathers specifically kept religion out of the lawmaking process for a reason. (And majority rules only applies until the constitution starts to get trampled!) The founding fathers were smart enough to know that religion and spirituality is personal and is up to every individual to decide. Religion played little role in drafting our constitution and it should play zero role in giving gay Americans their legal right. If there were a law forcing every American to abide by the principles of the Methodist church, do you not think there would be severe public backlash and outcry?

And YES! I just said LEGAL right. You see, the government recognizes a marriage, so it is not really religious anyway unless you choose to marry in a church or other place of worship. And you know what? You can CHOOSE to do that if you like. It's not a legal requirement to marry in a religious house. You have to go to the local county office, apply for, and pay for a marriage certificate. It is not recognized by religion in the legal sense. It is recognized by the government. And if we're using religious criteria to disallow gays to marry, then counties shouldn't allow Catholics to marry Jews. And in some cases (because yes, some churches still  believe it) that Caucasians shouldn't marry African Americans and so on... But why isn't this the case? Because religious beliefs do not dictate our LEGAL rights. And they never should.

Then, we get into people like Mike Huckabee (why is he my favorite idiot to pick on?) who says that if you allow gays to marry, then people will want to marry animals. Well, to quote the clever comic Kathleen Madigan, "Well, maybe where YOU'RE from, Mr. Huckabee." I will admit that it took me watching the show Sister Wives to get me to somewhat comprehend polygamous marriage, but that is what the people in that relationship WANT. That is their path to happiness and why should I get in their way? I might not agree with that and it might not be my cup of tea, but it's not my business what goes on behind closed doors. I am not going to invite Mike Huckabee inside my bedroom, so he has no business being in mine or yours.

Most conservatives and tea partiers (granted, I said most, not all) like to throw around words like "freedom" and "liberty" while simultaneously attacking the freedom and liberty of their neighbors, teachers, government workers, firefighters, police officers, military officers etc... The only difference between them is one is a homosexual and one is not.

But think of it this way if no other. With gays marrying, it will bring more money into the government and our economy. More marriages equals more marriage licenses and more money to the county. More money for weddings will be spent in the local economy. And I'm sorry, but most of my gay friends don't want to do things on a small scale. So, businesses like florists, chapels, bakeries, venues, hotels, boutiques and dress shops will ALL benefit from the influx of business.

And seriously, a gay wedding will be much more fabulous in the long run. I, for one, cannot wait to get my first invitation to see it happen legally!

Pro Sports Spice: The Hottest Male Athletes

My last blogs have been a little serious, so I thought I would lighten things up a bit by talking about some of the hottest professional guys the athletic world has to offer. Now, keep in mind I am an Oklahoma Sooners and Oklahoma City Thunder fan and I do play favorites. Either way, you will appreciate the following delicious eye candy. ENJOY!

RYAN LOCHTE

SWIMMER

ELEVEN-TIME OLYMPIC MEDALIST, TEAM USA

After seeing his interviews at the 2012 Summer Olympics in London, its clear Ryan Lochte isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer, but who cares? I'm not marrying him and he's easy on the eyes. He has also admitted to not being into long term relationships, but rather choosing to enjoy the booty call route. Hey, Ryan - whatever floats your floaties.

CAM NEWTON

NFL QUARTERBACK

CAROLINA PANTHERS

Well, hello handsome. This Auburn Tiger has some serious stripes. Not only is he the 2010 Heisman Trophy winner, but he sustained from tattooing or piercing his beautiful bod in order to claim a spot on the Panthers roster. But if you ask me, it is tough to improve on perfection in his case. He can take my snap any day.

DAVID BECKHAM

MLS MIDFIELDER

LOS ANGELES GALAXY

Despite the fact that his wife desperately needs a Twinkie, I don't think there is a sexiest athletes list "Becks" is not a part of. An import from across the pond, this father of four admittedly suffers from OCD. And I'm not talking about Obviously Conditions Deliciously. Though I am pretty sure he has succumbed to that illness, as well.

SERGE IBAKA

NBA POWER FORWARD/CENTER

OKLAHOMA CITY THUNDER

Did anyone else feel a "Serge" in their nether regions? Born in the Republic of Congo, this 23-year-old played professional ball in Spain before officially being picked up by the Thunder in 2009. Upon his arrival in the US, he actually worked with teammates to learn English and was fluent after a year. He can talk to me in any language as long as its without a shirt.

SAM BRADFORD

NFL QUARTERBACK

ST. LOUIS RAMS

Falling into the "So Goofy He's Cute" category, I have to admit there is something incredibly endearing (and sexy) about an "Awww shucks" Oklahoma boy. Another Heisman winner on this list, Sammy was the first overall draft pick in 2010. He also holds the NCAA record for the most touchdown passes by a freshman quarterback with 36. Coincidentally, that is the same age I was when he was drafted. Probably a sign he should marry me.

MIKE FISHER

NHL CENTER

NASHVILLE PREDATORS

Lovingly referred to as "Mr. Carrie Underwood" in Nashville, Mike Fisher is an Ontario native who was traded from the Ottawa Senators to the Predators so he could be closer to his wife. And yes, he is married, but there is no crime in looking and looking I shall. But, who is looking at Carrie when he's on her arm? Plus, in the off-season, he spends his time helping kids at hockey camps. If nothing else, think about the children!

ALEX RODRIGUEZ

MLB THIRD BASEMAN/SHORTSOP

NEW YORK YANKEES

I'm sorry. Did you say something? I was a little distracted staring at the above photo. Rumored to be somewhat of a playboy, Alex Poo has been linked to Madonna, Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, strippers, and prostitutes. So, an overzealous sexual appetite and a womanizer? Well, I'll just admire the physical prowess from seats at third base. Insert "third base" joke here.

REGGIE BUSH

NFL RUNNING BACK

MIAMI DOLPHINS

Admittedly, this handsome devil wasn't going to make my list because I question the sanity and intellect of any human being who chooses to date Kim Kardashian. However, he was caught up in the Kardashian publicity slant machine and I will forgive him since he no longer dates an attention whore. In fact, Reggie has admitted he prefers a life out of the spotlight when not on the gridiron. Of course, I know plenty of women willing to snuggle beside him on the couch for a cozy night "in."

KELLY SLATER

SURFER

50-TIME WCT SURFER CHAMP, TEAM USA

Oh come on! Is this guy for real? I mean, his eyes alone could cause spontaneous orgasm. Do yourself a favor and Google Images search him. It is unreal. Evidence he is only getting riper with age, the 40-year-old Florida native's favorite spots to "hang ten" include Hawaii, Australia, California, South Africa, and Barbados. Well, I do believe I can name about a hundred people off the top of my head willing to be his, ahem, travel partner.

SONNY BILL WILLIAMS

NRL SECOND ROW/LOCKE/CENTER

TEAM NEW ZEALAND

Like what you see? Not only is this fabulous foreigner tearing it up on the rugby pitch, but he is also a professional boxer. In fact, he recently signed a contract to play with Japan's Panasonic Wild Knights under the condition that he would be able to fight one boxing match during the season. A bit of a bad boy, the sexy Sonny has been busted driving drunk, peeing in an alleyway, and roughing up a photographer. I am so turned on right now.

ADRIAN PETERSON

NFL RUNNING BACK

MINNESOTA VIKINGS

This oh-so handsome Oklahoma Sooner gives new meaning to the words "Yo Adrian!" Described as one of the NFL's best running backs, he is also the league's highest paid running back in history, earning a $96 million dollar, 7-season paycheck. Plus, his professional nickname is "All Day" or "AD" for short. But let's be honest. We can also hope that is his personal nickname, too.

BODE MILLER

ALPINE SKIER

FIVE-TIME OLYMPIC MEDALIST, TEAM USA

Bode is the most successful American Alpine skier of all time. A regular at the Winter Olympics and World Championships, the New Hamspshire hottie also touts some serious "boy next door" good looks. A father with a reputation for not being a nice guy to the press, he recently announced his engagement to pro beach volleyballer Morgan Beck. Well, hey, Bode if things don't work out with you two...

DANNY AMENDOLA

NFL WIDE RECEIVER

ST. LOUIS RAMS

I think "Amend" love! The second Ram on this delicious list, this Mexican-American Texan is one of the few things I like about Texas. Indeed, I am aware that he aided in a Texas Tech defeat over my Oklahoma Sooners, but I am willing to forgive him now that he is catching passes from Sam Bradford. Besides, he is so incredibly sponge worthy.

LEWIS HAMILTON

FORMULA ONE RACE DRIVER

TEAM UK

To quote Billy Ocean "Hey! You! Get into my car!" Named after American sprinter Carl Lewis, this British babe dated a Pussycat Doll and was named a Member of the Order of the British Empire by the Queen herself in 2009. And here's a bonus: he recently moved his home estate from Switzerland to Monaco. And don't pretend you didn't just go straight to Orbitz to find one way tickets there.

CALVIN JOHNSON

NFL WIDE RECEIVER

DETROIT LIONS

I find it interesting that I had more straight men suggest "Megatron" for this list than straight women. But now I have a "Megacrush."  Drafted in 2007, he is said to be the highest paid wide receiver in the NFL. But the best part about Calvin is he has a reputation for being a gentleman and remaining humble despite his astounding paycheck. I still wouldn't kick him out of bed for snacking... on me.

ALEX RIOS
MLB RIGHT FIELDER

CHICAGO WHITE SOX

Sexy Soxer Alex (triple x you guys!) throws and bats right-handed, which means his left hand is for... massages? We can only hope. Hailing from Alabama, Alex has reportedly bounced back this year after having somewhat of a poor performance in 2011. Now, what lucky lady wants to jump on board and give this guy an even more pleasant 2013? (I just raised my hand.) 

JAKE DALTON
GYMNAST

TEAM USA

I chose Jake for the hottie list without even knowing he was an Oklahoma Sooner. So, that makes 3 Sooners in the lineup. Boomer Sooner to that! Originally from Nevada, Jake was on the 2012 USA Men's Olympic Gymnastics team and has won various national and international honors. But, seriously folks. Any dismount he does within 5 feet of me will be scored a perfect ten! (Yes, I know they don't use that scoring system anymore, but humor me.)

CRISTIANO RENALDO
REAL MADRID FOOTBALLER

TEAM PORTUGAL

Have mercy! Even this guy's name sounds sexy. As usual, he isn't just stacked, he is a standout soccer star being paid close to $131 million bucks when he transferred from Manchester United to Madrid in 2009. Known for dating international models, Cristiano became a father in 2010 and has sole custody of his son who -- surprise -- is also named Cristiano. Oh sweetie. Trust us. There can only be one of you. And you are yummy.

THABO SEFOLOSHA
NBA GUARD/FORWARD

OKLAHOMA CITY THUNDER

I lovingly like to refer to this guy as "Sefolicious" -- and you can probably guess why. Born in Switzerland, he  can speak French, Italian, and English and has a very pretty wife named Bertille. In 2006, when he was initially drafted by the Bulls, he was the first Swiss basketball player to join the NBA. (At least that's according to his bio.) Welcome to the USA, and please, send Bertille home. Kidding. Maybe.

AND... there you have it folks some of the hottest professional athletes out there. Big thanks to all who made suggestions. I was originally going to do just ten athletes, but so many suggestions came in, that I extended it to 19. Feel free to scroll up and drink in the hotness again. I know I have. Repeatedly.



Own Your Disdain

With today's announcement that Chick Fil A will no longer be donating their money to anti-hate organizations, it brought about the usual discussions. I applaud the organization for taking the right steps towards equality, but I also know that there is still a lot of discrimination within that company against homosexuals. However, its a step in the right direction. Big win for the good guys. Kudos to all of those working to make equality happen in America and around the world. Now, I might be able to enjoy a chicken wrap from Chick Fil A again. I am still on the fence about whether or not to start patronizing their company again. I stopped going there because I knew of their views on homosexuals long before it made headlines. So, I might need some nudging.

Anyway, on my Facebook page, I asked the question: Where will those who supported Chick Fil A's anti-gay stance go to eat? And, as usual, I got the whole "Chick Fil A Day was a free speech issue" excuse. Yes. Free speech was merely an excuse. A BIG FAT EXCUSE. It served as a cover for hate. Or at least disdain. And disagreement in some cases. How was Chick Fil A CEO Dan Cathy's free speech silenced, smothered, or suppressed? He said it. It was his right to say it. I don't believe people ever took issue with his right to say it. However, people (including myself) had EVERY right to express their free speech by speaking out against his views. We used our free speech and freedom of expression to not take our business to his restaurants. However, Dan Cathy's free speech was NEVER In danger.

Dubya himself said that "Freedom is a two way street" when responding to Dixie Chicks' lead singer Natalie Maines' controversial comments about him. He was discussing the backlash against them. Of course she could make her statement. And those causing the backlash had every right, as well. They stopped buying Dixie Chicks albums, merchandise and concert tickets. Their albums were burned on street corners. So, how is the backlash against Chick Fil A's Dan Cathy any different? It's okay to lash out at the Dixie Chicks but not Dan Cathy? What is the difference?

Those who flocked to Chick Fil A on what I dubbed Mike Huckabee's "Hate Day," were not there for free speech. If they were, they watch too much Fox News. (Or they didn't care about Chick Fil A's views and just wanted a sandwich.) If you do not agree with the homosexual lifestyle or gay marriage or the LGBT agenda, then just say you don't. Cite whatever reasons you like be it religion, personal, political -- WHATEVER! Just don't hide behind a guise of free speech. Your real motives are you have disdain for or disagree with homosexuals or gay marriage. At least be honest in your opinion or belief. I would respect someone much more if they came out and said "I am here supporting Chick Fil A because marriage should be between a man and a woman." Don't use free speech-- something thousands fought and died for -- so you don't look like a bigot.

Own your truth even if it isn't politically correct. You may look like a real jerk, but at least you're an honest one.

Responsibility in Responding

Alyssa Douglas is a 16-year-old Clarksville, Ohio high school student. She looks like a pretty girl. I would like to learn more about her, but her Twitter account has, not surprisingly, been taken down. Why is that?

Perhaps Miss Douglas was texting her boyfriend or applying lip gloss when the topic of the legality of threatening the President of the United States was brought up in her history or civics classes? Hell, I never paid attention in sophomore typing class because the guy that sat behind me had unbelievable blue eyes. Perhaps I got a little off topic, but Miss Douglas did not learn this behavior or mentality from her Ohio public school education that we all Americans helped pay for.

This behavior and mindset was taught by, more than likely, the girl's parents. I am not saying its completely their fault or doing. It could also be some deer-hunting, camo-wearing, misled boyfriend or a group of uneducated friends. Peer pressure sucks -- we were all teenagers once. You know, I thought Dubya was an arrogant dumbass, but I would have never dreamed of hurting him. SOMEONE is teaching Miss Douglas that kind of hate. And her hash tag adds fuel to the fire. But that little Tweet has gotten both the teenager and her parents into hot water. As expected, the Secret Service and FBI are both investigating.

And honestly, what makes President Obama so polarizing? I mean, his ideas aren't that radical. If you did real research you would know he wasn't a Muslim (which would be fine if he were) or a socialist (a practice we currently use in this country via public schools, the postal service, fire & law enforcement etc...) So, what is it? And I hate playing the race card, but that seems to be the only thing I can come up with. But many don't want to admit they are racists. However, they pass this hatred down or onto others, especially their children, who in turn Tweet illegally without any thought to their words or actions.

My friend, Eleni, points out that kids in public schools are taught to pass standardized tests, but not to think critically. I also believe that MANY children aren't raised to think for themselves.  I grew up with parents constantly telling me I CANNOT and SHOULD NOT think like them. People in this country would be better off if they had the ability to decide on their own what they believe in and not what their parents, elders, or uninformed influences tell them to believe. I mean, I knew a guy who was in his mid-20's and it took me explaining my parents "think for yourself" mentality that made him actually realize he COULD believe something else.

I know there are a lot of things broken in our public education system. And I am more than happy to voice my opinion about it because my money pays for it. I do not have kids, but if you do, I probably helped educate them. That being said, some people just cannot learn by reading books. My boyfriend is incredibly intelligent and he is one of those people. I didn't want to (or care to) read a book unless it told a good story. I remember being startled in one of my freshman college classes when a professor actually asked me what I thought of a topic we were discussing. I mean, I could not believe he actually cared what I thought after being told to shut up thousands of times in K-12th grade.

There are no solid answers or explanations as to what drives extreme hatred in a 16-year-old mind. School shootings come to mind. They are senseless. I mean, when I was 16, I hated the girl who made fun of my acne, but I never even joked about trying to kill her. It just wasn't in my mind's capacity to ever consider taking the life of another human being. And it still isn't. And maybe Miss Douglas was just angry she didn't make the volleyball team and was letting off steam. But what did President Obama do to her that was so terrible? My guess would be nothing.

I am aware parenting is not easy and I am also NOT saying don't raise your children in a Republican/Democrat, conservative/progressive household. Teach them the positive, loving values of those beliefs. But also give them the freedom to study and look beyond those teachings. Because no matter what, you aren't born with that level of hatred. It is a learned behavior. And who wants a 16-year-old child with that amount of irresponsible and uneducated venom in their heart and mind?

An Open Letter to Ann Coulter

Dear Ann:

As a fellow human being, woman and American, I have a few things I need to say to you. 

First of all, I have Tweeted some pretty nasty things since having my Twitter account over the past few years. In fact, some of my more repulsive ones have been flung in your direction. I believe I called you a stain on the underwear of America. But, in hindsight, I am not proud of those comments, but that is the kind of rhetoric you inspire. You fling your immature monkey poop and somehow, I feel the need to sink to your level. I am baffled by it myself.

In all honesty, if I were in your shoes, I don't think I would be so demonic. You are a well-known figure in American politics and instead of inspiring the female gender of this society, you repulse many of them. If you could back up your nasty words with solid facts and figures, perhaps you would at least earn some level of respect. However, you resort to elementary school level name-calling, bullying, and insults to give an already-dying conservative platform some credence. 

You are not dumb or lacking in the brain department. You have a JD from Michigan law and are better educated than I am. So, use that education for good and not for evil. You can fight for the side of Republicans and not act like a 16 year-old who didn't get elected prom queen. But the thing that gets me the most is you don't even want to fight for your own gender. In your column you said that women, specifically single women, are to "blame" for electing Democrats as President. "If we take away women's right to vote, we'd never have to worry about another Democrat President.  It's sort of a pipe dream, a personal fantasy of mine."

In your studies as an undergraduate history student at Cornell, did you not study the 19th Amendment? Did you know women fought and died so you could have that right? Women were beaten and silenced simply because of their gender. Does that mean nothing to you? You would rather bow to the wishes of 50+ white men than support a woman's rights? Seriously, what is wrong with you?

You admit you like to stir up the pot. I get it. It's your act. It's your gimmick. In all honesty, you're not that good of an actor anyway. But there is more than one way to skin a cat and its just as easy to get people bent out of shape by using tact and fact than by lying and persecuting. You don't even have to be nice. But you will receive the respect a woman with your credentials deserves by being respectful and dignified. 

That being said, your comments about some of the families of the 9/11 victims were and are inexcusable. Just because they were criticizing your agenda doesn't mean you have to belittle the deaths of their loved ones. That would be like me saying your parents deserved to die because you are their child. Is that right? Is that Christ-like? As a native of Oklahoma City, I saw firsthand the impact an attack on American soil can take on friends and families of victims. Insulting them because they want the truth about the deaths of their loved ones puts you in the same esteem as those who actually committed the attacks in the first place. It is your right to say what you want and I will always fight for your right to say it. But even members of your own party have intentionally separated themselves from you. How bad does it have to get when people you agree with stop returning your calls?

Plus, the more outrageous your statements become, the less people are going to care. Most people I know (conservative or progressive) write you off as someone who is just shouting at the wind. Anymore, your opinion is a running joke for Democratic bloggers and late night talk show hosts. Don't you get it? YOU ARE A JOKE. Perhaps being more like, say, Rachel Maddow will allow you to be your usual mean self, but be able to gain a reputation with some level of regard? Rachel has said some cruel things, but she has every bit the reputation for being a smart fact-checker. Indeed, she has been caught stretching the truth. But you catapult over the line with outright lies and slander.

To conclude, you are a Christian. A woman who claims to be devout and God-fearing. If that is the case, why do you say any of those things at all? Didn't Jesus say to love one another? And do not Christian teachings urge you to live as he did? Did he not also say "Judge not lest ye be judged"? Refraining from lying is one of the ten commandments. Truthfully, you aren't doing a very good job as a Christian... especially when I have heard you say you put Jesus first in your life and in all you do. If you were just spouting lies again, then perhaps you shouldn't believe your own hype and duck back into obscurity? The world might be a better place if you did.

I wish you peace in your heart. I know it will be tough, but from one female human being American to another, I really do urge you to think before you open your trap.

Best, Angela
Nashville, TN

Up With the Uterus

A few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook that equated the University of Texas Longhorn with the shape of a female uterus. 

I understood that they were trying to associate my least favorite team's mascot with something, oh, I don't know... feminine... and therefore weak. I understand the University of Oklahoma's distaste for the awful Longhorn and its subsequent choice of team colors, but I took offense. If anything, the female uterus should be a sign of strength. To quote the GREAT Betty White "Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding." (At least that quote is credited to her. Upon my fact checking, the quote could not be completely credited to her, but that is why I am adding this sentence.)


All kidding aside, if it weren't for the uterus or vagina, this world wouldn't be populated. Instead of seeing it as feeble, why shouldn't it be a symbol of strength and capability? Why is it not? Because our society still, unfortunately, subscribes to some unsaid rule that women are the fragile and delicate gender. In my opinion, its shameful and I am ashamed of any Oklahoma fan who used the above comparison to make the Texas  Longhorns look bad.

After seeing all of the posts recently knocking Michelle Obama's DNC speech, I got the same feeling. If you are going to poke holes in her speech, do it with facts and intelligence. DO NOT, however, knock her because she is a woman. Don't chastise the President for admitting he seeks her advice or "hides" behind her rhetoric. She is strong, beautiful, smart, and outspoken, so I am proud the President seeks her feedback. He is not weak because he has female advisers and equating females with weakness and stupidity is something I COMPLETELY take offense to. 

Even President Bush, Junior admitted to taking frequent advice from his wife, Laura. And why not? She has her college degree in education and held positions as both a teacher and librarian. Michelle Obama has even more impressive credentials. She is a magnet high school graduate and attended Princeton where she graduated Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Arts. Then, she earned her Juris Doctor from Harvard Law. 

And don't get me started on people knocking Hillary Clinton. So what if she is a bitch? I have been called a bitch more times than I can count. And most of the time it's not because I was actually being cruel. The majority of the times I have been called a bitch (or worse) is when I have been standing up for myself or for something or someone I believe in. Admittedly, sometimes the label was deserved. But Hillary Clinton has taken a LOT of flack simply because she is brazen and has an arsenal of chutzpah. Oh yes, and let's not forget a brain in her head. And where did that get her? She's the United States Secretary of State. Not a bad gig if you ask me. 

To that end, my boyfriend, Jeff, is one of the smartest and most level-headed people I know. And for some odd reason, he seeks my advice almost daily. Why is that? Because I am not weak, feeble, stupid or incapable. I am a strong, outspoken, smart woman and my voice will not be stifled or suppressed. And perhaps I am being piddly about a college football mascot comparison. But if we continue to look over and disregard that kind of mentality, it will continue to exist, grow, and cultivate. And I can't stand by and let women be viewed like that any longer. It's 2012 not 1812 and I'll be damned if we're allowed to take even one baby step backwards.